On the other, I’m definitely not giving every potential partner a fair shot, and I’m giving guys who aren’t really right for me way too much of my heart too soon. But we’re also human, you and I, and when all our romantic energy is directed at just one person (even when it’s “so low-key”) we will not be able to keep things casual forever. Things like physical and emotional boundaries can help keep a relationship casual, but keeping more than one person in the mix will also keep feelings in check and remind you that you’re “out there” as much for yourself as for the people you might meet.
The more I apply myself to truly “casual” dating, however, the better I’m getting. Tall, dark and handsome is not exactly what I mean.
This lands you both into friends with benefits territory.When you’ve made up your mind to “explore,” let your dates know. The more you allow yourself to look inward with honesty and reflect upon your choices and the patterns you see, the better chance you have of knowing the person who is right for you with Coach Taylor levels of clarity.I am the world’s biggest believer that every romantic paramour—however briefly they may stay—comes into your life for a reason.” I swear I will scream.)It’s easy to let your mind go wild with “the grass is always greener” fantasies and convince yourself that marital status equates some kind of superiority. Trust me, I’ve been down this rabbit hole a thousand times and the only place it leads is straight into an entire row of Oreos.It’s easy to believe that if your friend is married, she must know something you don’t. There is so much to learn during your time as a single person, whether you embrace casual dating or not. You will always know things that your friends who married young don’t know.