When you have decided that you are ready, there are precautions and steps to take in order to make your transition easier and safer.
These include gathering any evidence of the abuse should you decide to press charges, having at least two escape plans and a predetermined safe place to go, and packing a bag with cash, medication, legal documents, a change of clothes, etc.
Live Bold and Bloom explains, “The victim of the abuse often doesn't see the mistreatment as abusive.
They develop coping mechanisms of denial and minimizing in order to deal with the stress."The behavior of emotional abusers may seem insignificant at first, but ongoing degrading treatment is representative of a much deeper issue.
Refer to these hotlines and resources about partner rape for more help.
When your partner shames you for your weight, appearance, etc., not only is it cruel, immature, and based in patriarchal falsehoods, but it can also be a manipulative way to convince you that you'll never be good enough for anybody else; that you can't leave your relationship, because no one else will ever love you. You don't have to stay with a person whose internal ugliness leads them to try and convince you otherwise.
It's a sickening method of establishing dominance and control in a relationship. If a partner rushes through foreplay because they consider their orgasm more important than yours, makes you feel bad about your sexual preferences/needs because they require effort, or pressures you into activities that make you uncomfortable, voice your dissatisfaction and discomfort without shame.
But if your partner's insecurity, jealousy, controlling nature, sexist ideology, etc.
So what are some of the problems that you should never tolerate in a relationship?
Many of the intolerable behaviors that partners may exhibit stem from insecurity and the desire to establish control and dominance in the relationship.
IPV can manifest itself as physical, emotional, psychological, and/or sexual abuse.
You should never put up with a partner who makes you feel small, dram or unworthy so that they can build themselves up.