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Their temperament, their dreams, how they handle disappointment and imperfect situations. And in every possible situation in this dating landscape, seek to be honest when needed, clear when you have a concern, and kind toward everyone’s feelings. But if you follow the golden rule and treat others with respect, it’s not impossible.
Honestly, if you take the slow approach here, usually one prospect will emerge as the best person for you in a matter of weeks. All can find their best match.(Grand Central Life & Style, out now).
I can’t tell you the number of times “shock and awe” follows. If you really like how things are going and would like to pursue a more serious relationship with someone, you should bring up what you want, very clearly, with your dating prospect.
As early as the first handful of dates, you can find a way to state your interest or mention, “I only date one person at a time.” At the bare minimum, your dating prospect will know where you stand, and they’ll likely be more open with you about how they typically date as a result.
Unless, of course, you are only looking for daters who are serious about building an exclusive relationship.
In this case, having the conversation earlier on can serve as a filter. Don’t lead someone on; balance that dynamic when you sense that the scale is decidedly tilted.
If you’d rather halt other romantic or sexual interactions as you move forward with the person you’re into, say so.
Clear, honest communication is the best tactic here; hopefully, the other person will do the same.