In the end, a willingness to share those feelings is what creates a happy and secure relationship.
No amount of money, influence, power or education can give you that.
"There are a lot of theories out there about how online dating is bad for us," Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford who has been conducting a long-running study of online dating, told me the other day.
"And mostly they're pretty unfounded." Rosenfeld, who has been keeping tabs on the dating lives of more than 3,000 people, has gleaned many insights about the growing role of apps like Tinder.
Part of what you have uncovered during your research is how drastic the rise of online dating has been.
That's something not everyone thinks this is a good thing. The worry about online dating comes from theories about how too much choice might be bad for you.
People used to marry in their early 20s, which meant that most dating that was done, or most courting that was done, was done with the intention of settling down right away.
Of course, others have worried about these sorts of questions before.
But the fear that online dating is changing us, collectively, that it's creating unhealthy habits and preferences that aren't in our best interests, is being driven more by paranoia than it is by actual facts.
I wondered to myself, is this what online dating has done to us?
Is it creating a new reality in which people actively avoid real-life interactions?